The Adventures of Dan and Tina
Narcissistic abuse and recovery explored and explained through a true first-person narrative.
| The Many Angles of Sex With a Narcissist | Individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) often use sex as a means of obtaining narcissistic supply, maintaining control over their partners through triangulation with others and by using it as either punishment or reward. Narcissistic supply is the common name for the attention, admiration, and validation that individuals with NPD
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It was just a week after “Nategate,” I was barely moved in to the apartment and even though I was still committed to making things work, Tina and I were not really on solid ground. I was working on setting up counseling for us, but Tina had made plans with Amber months in advance to go to Rock Fest –
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| Boundary-Breaking, Secrecy and Sex Abuse | I’d gotten back from work earlier than expected and found Tina in an odd mood. She seemed extra energetic and distracted. After the barest greeting and exchange of pleasantries, Tina announced that she needed some alone time. I’d just gotten back to the apartment and she explained that she didn’t want me to
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I initially guessed the footprints that appeared on my van windows must have been a prank by Maura on her way to work in the morning. “Cute, Maura. Weirdo. That was baffling at first,” I texted Maura when I discovered them. I was getting ready for work myself and had stepped outside to have a cigarette in the morning sun.
Read moreJuly 29th, 2015 Merlin’s Rest was long a favorite haunt of mine, especially in my heavy drinking days. It was a British Isles pub that featured a tremendous selection of whiskeys (and whiskys for those who enjoy a peaty scotch). I’d become acquainted with a number of regulars there over the years. One such was an east-African man named Abraham.
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It’s always bothered me how the media just lazily tacks “gate” onto the end of some pertinent word to denote a government scandal. Watergate (the first “gate” scandal) was the name of a hotel. The Nixonian scandal involved a break in at DNC offices at the Watergate Hotel, so it was the “Watergate Scandal.” “gate” has nothing to do with
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Narcissist Triangulation Tricks and Signals I took Tina up to the Hexagon to shoot some pool. As had become our custom, she was drinking whiskey and I had a Red Bull. We were having a fine time. Pool was one of our main forms of recreation and I pretty much always enjoyed Tina’s company. After we’d shot a couple games,
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