Lies Hurt – Narcissism and Lying – An Introduction
Lies Hurt – Narcissism and Lying
The diagnostic manuals don’t specifically allude to lying as a symptom of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), but anyone who’s dealt with narcissists knows that narcissism and lying go hand in hand.
Narcissistic Abuse is no small matter and generally speaking, it isn’t a “time heals all wounds” kind of injury. Recovering from narcissistic abuse requires conscious effort and may require some level of professional help, such as anti-anxiety medication or talk therapy.
Amidst the grand finale breakup with my narcissistic ex, Tina, I said, “every lie you told me was like a tiny cut on my brain and after a while, my brain was bleeding so much that it couldn’t focus on other important tasks like work. Every iota of mental energy was devoted to unraveling the hundreds and hundreds of lies and healing all of those little cuts.”
One or two lies doesn’t usually add up to much, but in a relationship with a narcissist who’s entire reality is built on an ever-growing web of dishonesty and invention, the lies become overwhelming.
Add to that a cruel and manipulative psychological game designed to keep you off balance, but hooked on your abuser and the constant flow of stress hormones and other responses of brain chemistry and you have the makings of measurable, physical brain damage.
Fortunately, it appears that at least a large part of the damage caused by narcissistic abuse can be repaired, with sustained effort and patience.
My story began with an unlikely romance that seemed to transcend the known world, but devolved into a Hell on Earth I couldn’t escape. I was utterly convinced, through all the tribulations, Tina and I were cosmically linked and “meant to be.” Laboring under such delusion opened me up to accepting the most outrageous abuses that I denied, rationalized, compartmentalized and even blocked from memory.
Learning About Narcissistic Abuse
Finally, stumbling upon a story written by another victim of narcissistic abuse, the scales began to fall from my eyes. Learning about Cluster B personality disorders and then reading the oh-so-familiar stories of others who’d tangled with them set me on a new road to recovery.
With my writings, I hope to shed some light on narcissistic abuse – what it looks like, how it works, what it does to a person and how to go about recovering from it.
I’m not a mental health professional and I’m not peddling cures, simply my own experiences. I hope it’s helpful, because I know the desperate agony and feel compelled to help alleviate it for others.
My book, The Adventures of Dan and Tina is nearing publication. I’m going to make a free e-book version available to subscribers to this site for a limited time. Sign up here if you want to get in on that free book offer.