A Mind is a Terrible Thing to Manipulate – A Book Review

Michael Sunset’s book, A Mind is a Terrible Thing to Manipulate is a raw memoir relating how he was systematically manipulated by his ex-wife, her father and his own mother and sister to believe he had a mental illness. It’s a classic tale of gaslighting, reminiscent of the namesake film Gas Light that spawned the psychological term. His ex-wife deftly

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Trauma Bonding Explained

| Updated | Becoming Addicted to one’s Abuser | Narcissists (and other emotional abusers) rely on manipulation of primal emotions, love and fear to hook their victims. A rudimentary study of psychology introduces us to the concepts of positive and negative reinforcement, which narcissistic manipulators employ, but the most powerful, dangerous and damaging psychological reinforcement is random and intermittent. The

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Taking a Narcissist to Couples Counseling

| Revised 10/28/2020 | Tina and I had visited my therapist together to figure out our best course to move forward on relationship counseling. At the time, Tina appeared committed to repairing the critically damaged trust between us. Jeff, my therapist had asked her about why she had lied to me when she snuck off with Nate to spend three

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The Total Destruction of Life, the Universe and Everything

The Irish Fair in St. Paul was an event I looked forward to annually. It was taking place on Harriet Island the weekend that Tina and I had our first and last session of couples’ counseling. I was planning to take Tina to it, but she was staying at her friend Amber’s on pet-sitting duty over that particular weekend and

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The Proposals

Tina’s dad, Tom was going out of town and had asked Tina to house sit and take care of the family dog. We had just gotten back to Tom’s place on the lake from a farther “up north” ice fishing and snowmobiling trip. We were sitting in the living room, watching TV. Jasper, Tina’s neurotic German shorthair pointer was sleeping

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