Exchanging wedding rings

Promises, Promises

I was married for 17 years to a woman I’d been in a relationship with since I was about 19 years old. Before meeting Tina, it was the only long-term relationship I’d been in. I’d dated a couple girls and had one other short-term girlfriend – nothing of any consequence. Growing up, my parents were in a perpetual on-again-off-again cycle

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Mommy, Where do Narcissists come From?

Or: Narcissists and Dung Beetles The dung beetle is a fascinating, but bizarre creature. Its life revolves around a literal ball of shit that it rolls or carries with it everywhere. Most creatures, especially humans, find rather repugnant the idea of carrying around a ball of shit. The notion only becomes more repellent when we learn that the beetle uses

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Miami Beach at Night

Healing Strategies After Narcissistic Abuse

How I Engaged in Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse For the first couple months after I left my abusive relationship, all I could really do was survive. I was having a moral and spiritual crisis and I was viewing the world with new cynical and suspicious eyes. I retreated. It wasn’t until I began to look at  my condition more scientifically

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Psst!

Psst and other Lies

Tina and I used to tell each other “I love you” so often that people who spent too much time around us might have been at risk for diabetes. Over time, we developed our own secret shorthand for it. I believe it began with Tina saying “pssst” to get my attention and when I responded, she just whispered “I love

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More Threats?

I received this video anonymously via a spoofed facebook messenger account early Thursday morning: “Looking Down the Barrel of a Gun” by the Beastie Boys. I’ve always been a fan of the Beastie Boys, but in this context, this kinda resembles a fresh threat from Tina’s childish neighborhood psychopath. Since he has threatened and harassed me before, possesses a stockpile

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With Friends like These…

Summer, 2015, I was invited to a party at the home of my friend Rich and his wife, Thea. It was a bacon-themed party and everyone was expected to bring something bacon-related. It was mostly food, but Kevin Bacon memorabilia was equally acceptable. Tina and I were spending the weekend together in the little top-floor apartment of the Buffalo Hotel,

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Something Stinks Next Door

Tina’s next door neighbors were an interesting clan and it was odd how small degrees of separation linked the interpersonal web between myself, friends, Tina and the neighbors. Shortly after I’d stopped drinking, I met my friend Donovan after work in Farmington. I think it was around July or August 2017. We went to the establishment where I’d first met

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