trauma bonding

Trauma Bonding Explained

| Updated | What is a Trauma Bond? Becoming Addicted to one’s Abuser | What is a trauma bond? This article examines how love-bombing, triangulation, intermittent reinforcement, ghosting and hoovering create a powerful addiction to one’s abuser Narcissists (and other emotional abusers) rely on manipulation of primal emotions, love and fear to hook their victims. A rudimentary study of psychology

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Two Tinas – Narcissists Split Personalities

| Narcissists Split Personalities – When the Mask Slips | Life with Tina was so confusing, disorienting and confounding. It could seem like there were two Tinas or that she was in a kind-of Shrodinger’s quantum reality where she could exist in two contradictory states at once. She loved me and at the same time, she didn’t. She was somehow

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Dissecting the On-Again, Off-Again Relationship

Unstable relationships are a hallmark of Cluster B disorders, like borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. On-again, off-again relationships can be terribly damaging and often, they can be the result of a prolonged, repeated pattern of narcissistic abuse. Narcissists tend to target very empathetic and conscientious people, because they can mistreat them longer, with less chance of them leaving. By sporadically

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A Chilly Reception at Scott’s Farm – Narcissists, Harems & Triangulation

| Triangulation with a Member of a Narcissist’s Harem | Wednesday, September 9th 2015 was the day I met Scott and his son Doug at their Farmington estate. The day before, I’d tried a few times without success to reach Tina. That was a Tuesday. I hadn’t noticed it yet, but there was a pattern with Tuesdays. Tina was never

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Quicksand

Quicksand Rescue

It was one of our early dates. I’d driven out to Buffalo to spend at least a day and a night with Tina. Her mom was staying with Scott down in Farmington so we had the apartment to ourselves for the night. Tina didn’t seem to have much explored her environs and wasn’t sure where the nearest bars and restaurants

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Texting

Texting

After a long night of heavy drinking, I’d spent the night at my friend Donovan’s down in Farmington. I awoke in the afternoon, still feeling the effect of the prior night’s revelry, but the blonde I’d met at Pizza Man the night before was my first thought upon waking. “What was that girl’s name I was talking with last night,

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