Narcissistic abuse and recovery explored and explained through a true first-person narrative.
I received an advance copy of Grace Under Siege for my comments and editorial review. I’ve read and wrote quite a lot on narcissistic abuse but this is the first work of fiction I’ve read tackling the subject and I didn’t know what to expect. Although billed as fiction and at times, surreal, the story rings true to me as
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Love after a Narcissist? Sometimes, humanity seems a writhing, aimless mass of stupid, immoral, germ-infested, filthy creatures not worthy of this Earth. At least, that’s the sort of view that comes forward in my darker moments, since beginning a long road to recovery from narcissistic abuse. No one is trustworthy. No one gets close. I’m often happiest, now, when I’m
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Do you want to understand a narcissistic relationship? Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is often underestimated and misunderstood as arrogance or simple self-absorption – because of how it’s depicted in TV shows and movies. But the real condition – and its consequences – are much more insidious. Histrionic, borderline or narcissistic, the fallout from a relationship with a cluster B personality
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Just released: The Adventures of Dan and Tina, a new book about narcissistic abuse. Tina has a personality disorder and Dan was codependent. Yes, narcissistic abuse hurts men, too. Being in a relationship with a cluster B personality disordered person can leave you feeling lost, broken, confused, humiliated and even hopeless. What may have seemed like magic in the beginning
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Lies Hurt – Narcissism and Lying The diagnostic manuals don’t specifically allude to lying as a symptom of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), but anyone who’s dealt with narcissists knows that narcissism and lying go hand in hand. Narcissistic Abuse is no small matter and generally speaking, it isn’t a “time heals all wounds” kind of injury. Recovering from narcissistic abuse
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| What is a Trauma Bond? | Becoming Addicted to one’s Abuser | What is a trauma bond? This article examines how love-bombing, triangulation, intermittent reinforcement, ghosting and hoovering create a powerful addiction to one’s abuser Narcissists (and other emotional abusers) rely on manipulation of primal emotions, love and fear to hook their victims. A rudimentary study of psychology introduces
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| How to tell if Someone is a Narcissist: Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder | Updated | Victims of narcissistic abuse generally know for themselves once they learn about narcissistic personality disorder, but diagnosing NPD isn’t something that can be done with a website. There are common “tells” that could indicate you might be dealing with a narcissist, though. Narcissism
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| Narcissists and Daddy Issues / Mommy Issues | Although narcissists ultimately want all the power, the relationship dynamic they seek and foster puts them in the position of a child to the adult, the parenting role to be assumed by their partner. They don’t seem to have adult-to-adult relationships with those who are close to them. I distinctly recall
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| Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – How I Engaged in Recovery | Updated 3/24/21 | Healing from narcissistic abuse is no small matter. For the first couple months after I left my abusive relationship, all I could really do was survive. I was having a moral and spiritual crisis and I was viewing the world with new cynical and suspicious
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Mirroring is one of the first things a narcissist does when hooking a new source of narcissistic supply. It’s part of the love bombing stage. I’d hazard a wager that one of the earliest “mirrors” in a budding relationship with a narcissist is a shared taste in music. Close runners-up would probably be liking the same kinds of movies and
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