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Get Help for Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome

Narcissistic Abuse Victims Syndrome or just Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome is not included in the current, official Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders in the United States. The unofficial diagnoses are rather an observation, by numerous mental health professionals, of the same cluster of symptoms in people they’ve treated who were in relationships (romantic, family, friendship or professional) with suspected

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Promises, Promises

I was married for 17 years to a woman I’d been in a relationship with since I was about 19 years old. Before meeting Tina, it was the only long-term relationship I’d been in. I’d dated a couple girls and had one other short-term girlfriend – nothing of any consequence. Growing up, my parents were in a perpetual on-again-off-again cycle

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Human Brain Diagram

Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Narcissism is widely misunderstood and underestimated. It isn’t about vanity. It isn’t self-love. Not every “narcissist” is personality-disordered. Everyone is capable of exhibiting narcissistic traits from time to time. Some, more than others. That’s generally not much of a problem. A cluster B personality disorder, like Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a big problem. Cluster B disorders are very severe and

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Anthems for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse

Not every bad or toxic relationship, nor every song about heartbreak involves a personality disorder, but I’ve noticed that I relate much more to certain songs about love gone bad since escaping my narcissistic abuser. I’d written before that most songs are love songs and after a breakup, every love song is about “her” (or “him” as the case may

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Mommy, Where do Narcissists come From?

Or: Narcissists and Dung Beetles The dung beetle is a fascinating, but bizarre creature. Its life revolves around a literal ball of shit that it rolls or carries with it everywhere. Most creatures, especially humans, find rather repugnant the idea of carrying around a ball of shit. The notion only becomes more repellent when we learn that the beetle uses

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Healing Strategies After Narcissistic Abuse

How I Engaged in Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse For the first couple months after I left my abusive relationship, all I could really do was survive. I was having a moral and spiritual crisis and I was viewing the world with new cynical and suspicious eyes. I retreated. It wasn’t until I began to look at  my condition more scientifically

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Mirror Shades

Mirror Shades

A few weeks after moving out of the apartment, I was getting ready to fly to Miami to visit an old friend in hopes of resetting my mind. Going to Ireland after my divorce had worked some magic I hoped to at least partially recreate in Florida. I was living in a motel and my mail was still being delivered

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