Narcissistic abuse and recovery explored and explained through a true first-person narrative.
| Drugs and Baby Oil – Unraveling a Narcissist-Addict’s Strange Behavior | Tina’s next door neighbors were an interesting clan and it was odd how small degrees of separation linked the interpersonal web between myself, my friends, Tina and the neighbors. Shortly after I’d stopped drinking, I met my friend Donovan after work in Farmington. I think it was around
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| Social Media Quirks are Common with Narcissists | In the early days of our relationship, when Tina was claiming not to have a Facebook account (she did), she had no qualms about any photos I might want to post of her and I on my Facebook wall. I had quite a collection of our adventures together going. I didn’t
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| March, 2018 | The line between narcissism and alcoholism or addiction can be blurry | First Avenue, Minneapolis’ famous “Downtown Danceteria” was one of my absolute favorite night spots for as long as I was old enough to get in. It was a part of my life experience I’d been wanting to share with Tina for a long time.
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Narcissist Triangulation Tricks and Signals I took Tina up to the Hexagon to shoot some pool. As had become our custom, she was drinking whiskey and I had a Red Bull. We were having a fine time. Pool was one of our main forms of recreation and I pretty much always enjoyed Tina’s company. After we’d shot a couple games,
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| Narcissist + Triangulation = Chaos, in the Blink of an Eye on St. Patrick’s Day | March 17th, 2018 | It was the first St. Patrick’s Day I was going to celebrate sober. It was kind-of a somber day, because it reminded me of friends I didn’t talk to any more. I had to work into the evening that
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Tina and I were on our way back to Farmington one chilly evening when Tina interrupted our chat to excitedly point out some baggage ahead on the roadside. There were three matching pieces, strewn in a way that suggested it had fallen off a moving vehicle. “Pull over and get it!” Tina urged. I drove on past shaking my head.
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December 29th, 2017 was the day I lost my Mom. She’d hosted Christmas for our extended family just 4 days prior. Tina, claiming to be down with a migraine, had declined to accompany me. I was disappointed, but my mom commented, “maybe that’s for the best,” when I mentioned it. I’d gone to Tina’s family function on Christmas Eve. My
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| Narcissism, Harem-Building, Triangulation and Gaslighting | Updated | September 2016 | I witnessed and experienced things when in Tina’s company I’d never come up against in any prior relationship. It got bizarre in some cases and I wondered how it was that Tina attracted such trouble. Some of it was just happenstance and perhaps she and I went to
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| The Devastating Effects of Ghosting, Silent Treatment, My Narcissist Fiance’s Disappearing Act | July 9th through 20th, 2016 | Ghosting, the act of abruptly disappearing from someone’s life without explanation can be painful even after a first date, but after months or years in a relationship it can be completely devastating. The psychological wound opened defies closure and festers
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| A days-long drinking binge with my narcissist fiance ended in deathly illness, withdrawals and revelations. | June 5th-25th, 2016 | Tina and I had been on a several-day drinking binge in our love bubble at the Buffalo Hotel and I had just discovered my new superpower. I didn’t get hangovers anymore. We’d been down to Jay’s Down and Under,
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