The Adventures of Dan and Tina
Narcissistic abuse and recovery explored and explained through a true first-person narrative.
| August 2018 | The Grand Finale Narcissistic Discard | The Irish Fair in St. Paul was an event I looked forward to annually. It was taking place on Harriet Island the weekend that Tina and I had our first and last session of couples’ counseling. I was planning to take Tina to it, but she was staying at her
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| Ghosting, Secondary Supply and Deception by a Narcissist | It was morning the 4th of July and according to what I’d been told, Tina and Nate should have been getting on their way from Amber’s house to the wedding. That wasn’t exactly what was happening, but it’s what I was meant to believe. In truth, Tina had spent the
Read moreJuly 3rd was the day before Tina was supposed to be Nate’s date to his brother’s wedding. I hadn’t realized when I was asked about her going that it would ruin Independence Day for us, but, Nate and Tina would have fewer opportunities to see each other with him in California, so I tried not to let that bother me.
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| Narcissists are Takers who Extract more than Supply | June 2018 | When it became clear that keeping my mom’s house wasn’t a viable option, Tina tried steering me away from using a realtor to sell the house. She said her parents had sold their old house in Eagan themselves and saved considerably on commissions. At first, Tina was
Read more| Drugs and Baby Oil – Unraveling a Narcissist-Addict’s Strange Behavior | Tina’s next door neighbors were an interesting clan and it was odd how small degrees of separation linked the interpersonal web between myself, my friends, Tina and the neighbors. Shortly after I’d stopped drinking, I met my friend Donovan after work in Farmington. I think it was around
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Narcissist Triangulation Tricks and Signals I took Tina up to the Hexagon to shoot some pool. As had become our custom, she was drinking whiskey and I had a Red Bull. We were having a fine time. Pool was one of our main forms of recreation and I pretty much always enjoyed Tina’s company. After we’d shot a couple games,
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| Narcissist + Triangulation = Chaos, in the Blink of an Eye on St. Patrick’s Day | March 17th, 2018 | It was the first St. Patrick’s Day I was going to celebrate sober. It was kind-of a somber day, because it reminded me of friends I didn’t talk to any more. I had to work into the evening that
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| Narcissism, Harem-Building, Triangulation and Gaslighting | Updated | September 2016 | I witnessed and experienced things when in Tina’s company I’d never come up against in any prior relationship. It got bizarre in some cases and I wondered how it was that Tina attracted such trouble. Some of it was just happenstance and perhaps she and I went to
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| March 16th, 2016 | I was excited to discover a pool hall in Farmington. Scott’s was still Tina’s home away from home, so it was a convenient spot for an occasional date. It was a dive as pool halls go, but we’d gone there together once or twice and found the staff and patrons to be agreeable. It was
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| The First Big Signs of Trouble | October 11th, 2015 | As my relationship with Tina was rapidly progressing, my ex wife began hassling me incessantly about moving my remaining possessions out of the house that had once been “ours.” I had been staying with my mother, and I wasn’t keen on moving a large volume of my possessions
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